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Post continues There is the couple now in their sixties enjoying their empty nest together, no one remembering the ugly time thirty years ago when he left the wife for his year-old secretary. Their family has grown, they are expecting their first grandchild and are so so happy together, his infidelity being just a blip on an otherwise happy marriage. People can get past infidelity, I should have too.

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But I think men have an innate makeup that is different from women.

My wife now regrets it all!!

Once you realize your unwise choice, it is time to make the right choices, make amends, and learn from your mistake. I have never found anyone I loved nearly as much as my ex-husband; it taught me the grass is definitely not greener on the other side. Perhaps one day, when his kids are grown up, we might be able to have another shot at happiness. Children are better off when a father helps set and enforce the rules of good behavior.

First, she asked what I would advise my daughter in a similar situation leave. The mistake is fater to put lipstick on a pig, to try to make an abusive situation work, which is what he is trying to do. Most men are unlikely to share their regret with anyone.

Their family has grown, they are expecting their first grandchild and are so so happy together, his infidelity being just a blip on an otherwise happy marriage. Can you ever forgive me?

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Even if I found someone else, age would realistically preclude being able to build that kind of relationship again. We go to the self-help section in the bookstore. For my part, my ex-OM was one of those guys.

I have other friends who are divorced and now alone. After we ask the basic question, Do Men Regret Leaving?

What goes on behind closed doors is something else. It can go much deeper.

While I agree with almost everything you said about honesty and integrity and how the betrayed spouse must feel, you gotta understand something. You have divorrce hands full trying to pick up the pieces. Second, she asked what model of a marriage I was showing my children if I stayed answer: a shitty one. I will never forgive him for lying to me but it has been three years since the divorce was final and I try to be civil when I see him.

What if you regret your divorce?

I could have silenced my sharp tongue, I could have praised him a little more. You have three people in the equation.

For more from Katie Currie, follow her journey on her blog Soaring Solo. Her response, was to harass me.

We need good men. Some men are afraid of their wives.

I made such a huge mistake. The damage is done.

I wanted him to leave because it was abusive to him, because he was miserable, not because of ME. It hardly seems right that I am the focus of their ongoing maritial battle. If the marriage is truly over, end it properly.

It seems like every time they have an argument, it must be my fault. In this way, the OW too has betrayed the wife and. Afteg also helps children be more secure and optimistic and successful in life. Finally, I left him and then I filed for divorce.

Photograph: Alamy Our readers share their stories of life after the heartbreak of divorce. Focus on YOU getting stronger…physically, emotionally, spiritually, socially, financially and in every other way you can think of. People in affairs know something is wrong, which is why they to try to keep it secret. There is nothing to celebrate here.

"i regret my divorce": one woman's story about infidelity and forgiveness

I agree that it is a selfish act between the affair partners. It is not my intent to insult you. Having two relationships at once is a recipe for disaster, pain, and hurt. I still feel bad for the affaur I caused, and I have, on occasion, missed his kindness, but I remain convinced that our marriage would have grown biter and miserable. That is the proper way to handle any relationship because it is honest. Pay attention: the person in your life at any time should be your focus My friend gave me two bits of good advice when I was trying to decide if I should leave.

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Men taking responsibility to be that strong support for their family is less likely today. People have wounds, they have emotional codependencies.

Perhaps you did not intend to hurt the wife. Everything I am going to say is a generalization. Related Stories.

I left him alone hoping he would see the error in regrettibg ways. Friends and activities can never fill the void left by the loss of a long-term partner.