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Red-striped fins as beautiful as always, he was swimming around in his tank only four weeks ago. First he became less active. Next he refused to eat. Then he was gone. Awareness kicked in, and I realized that my thought was triggered by fear to experience an unpleasant circumstance such as agaim again. This is how our minds tend to work: After we go through ti hurtful situation, we subconsciously avoid anything that we believe caused our pain.

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Deep down, every new guy I date, I hope this is the last time I will have to go through this. But the only way to let new people into our lives is to let go of the ones who left.

And then there are the moments when we subconsciously question why nice guys would like us. These are all important but should not be confused with the things you want in a relationship i.

But that is a part of life and of love. Those are the moments I live for. Because living in fear is already living in pain. We constantly overanalyze everything men say to us, and we count every time they hold our hands or kiss us in public.

I'm not scared of falling in love — i'm scared of getting hurt again

Before you get into a relationship you should know what you need to be happy in one. Allow yourself to learn from the past and then, let it go. Intimate relationships feed off of our insecurities, insecurities that are heightened by the fear of rejection.

Relate, relate, relate The crazy thing about pending and full on relationships is that EVERYONE goes through them — and get this, they manage to get into committed relationships somehow! Love itself is awesome. In a new relationship you have to be avain to feel out exactly how the other person best communicates to actual make it work.

Yeah, that part is important in the beginning of your relationship burt every stage of your relationship just FYI; some might even say the MOST important part of any relationship.

Accept it for what it xcared and try not to react out of fear because it will only make you chase someone away. You could push away the guy who could still give you butterflies after all the bombs. When you stop resistingyour mind is clear enough to find solutions to your problems.

Or, we're afraid things are just going to end like they did the last time. We are human; no one likes getting his or her heart broken.

By Anjelica Kenerly Aug. And when we enter new relationships, we compare our old ones to them. We bring our baggage from our broken hearts into these new relationships. Maybe one of you does better communicating through actions or maybe you need more processing time than your partner in order to communicate effectively. He will see you are amazing, despite the guard you may put up, and he will know how to handle it. Communicate You know that thing where words come out of your mouth and then words come out of their mouth and an understanding is agreed upon?

Ask yourself how your thoughts and behaviors might have contributed to what happened to you.

Why you shouldn't sabotage new relationships in fear of getting hurt

This will prevent you from being ruled by fear and will allow you to tap into your intuition. It is normal to be scared of getting hurt. Be gentle with yourself Being open and vulnerable during the blossoming relationship is nerve racking and tends to bring up dormant fears and insecurities we likely have had problems dealing with in the past.

I want to find someone awesome to be with, and yet, I struggle with figuring out if all the butterflies in my stomach are enough to justify the excruciating pain that comes when everything falls apart. The bestselling author of Beyond Influencer Marketing and the host of "Beyond Influencer Marketing Podcast," she has been featured on network television, top-ranked podcasts, and YouTube shows and websites with millions of followers.

It seemed to be a agani hurtful option to distance herself from others. Loving someone makes it easier for him to hurt me.

Are you someone who needs a certain amount of space? Be happy in your couple bubble as corny as that sounds. Next he refused to eat. Being the sabotager breaks not only your heart, but it can also break his.

Why you shouldn't sabotage new relationships in fear of getting hurt

This is how our minds tend to work: After we go through a hurtful situation, we subconsciously avoid anything that we believe caused our pain. You immediately connect with an awesome coach on text or over the phone in minutes.

Leave the hurt and the pain behind. This is why the reasons I want to run away from relationships have nothing to do with love and everything to do with the risk of heartache that comes with it.

How to let go of the fear of being hurt again

Avoidance based on fear will not protect you from experiencing pain. When you get into a relationship, there really are only two options: either you stay with him forever, or you eventually break up.

People and pets become ill and die. I feel like the risks outweigh the benefits. Relationships end.

Alvin Mahmudov 1. This will also help you to be more understanding of them in general and will prevent gey from overthinking or prematurely judging something they do or say. When I let go of my limiting thoughtsI started to see life under a different lens, and welcomed new people who were aligned with my values and appreciated me for who I was.